Thursday, May 12, 2016

It All Started With Bella

***SPOILER: THIS POST IS ABOUT DOGS***

If you know me, you'll know dogs are a pretty huge part of my life these days. I had a girl friend when I was younger, who wanted to be a vegetarian and her life dream was to be a veterinarian to save all the dogs in the world. I used to think she was crazy. 

Today, I'm a pescetarian, and I'm currently on a mission to help save all the dogs in the world.

Let's look back a bit here and take a trip down memory lane:

February 28, 2014

Jon and I had decided we wanted a dog. He decided a shih tzu was the best breed, because of their demeanor and that they barely shed. We didn't want a puppy as neither of us could take time off work to train one, and we felt more noble adopting an older, "less desirable" dog. I scoured the Internet for a shih tzu, and then I found her - Bella, a beautiful little 1.5 year old brown shih tzu, who was being given up in a Kijiji ad because she was "aggressive towards the baby". I don't have babies, so I wasn't very concerned, and I think any human who can't keep their newborn away from a ten pound dog simply isn't trying hard enough (#sorrynotsorry).

So February 28 2014, during our University Reading Week, we took Bella home, whether we wanted to or not.

No, really. Her owners came without paperwork for record of her shots, and after five minutes, the woman's significant other was laying on the horn for her to hurry up and leave the dog behind. The woman also bragged about having put an egg in the dog's fur to make it shiny - when she clearly had never had a groom. That's not even an exaggeration. 

After a quick decision that we didn't want this poor mutt thrown into a ditch by people who obviously had no concern about the type of people buying her, and a promise for emailed vet papers that never came, Bella was officially part of our family. Thus beginning the journey of spaying, vetting, grooming, and house training our dog as though she were a puppy anyways. I wouldn't change a thing about this little mop-head.

Bella's first day with us.

July 11, 2014

We only planned on one dog, I swear! But Bella didn't know how to be a dog. She didn't bark, she didn't know how to ask to go to the bathroom, and she didn't play even when encouraged to. All she wanted to do was cuddle you on the couch. We felt like she was depressed and needed a friend when we weren't home, so we started our search for a second dog. 

We thought we'd get another shih tzu, but they were hard to come by in any adoption sites, and Kijiji had just implemented its policy of forbidding posts of animals for sale. Then I started looking for other hypoallergenic breeds for Jon, and thought either a mini-schnauzer, or a havanese would be worth looking into. Lo, and behold! A schnauzer-havanese cross popped up onto a new local animal rescue site - The Greater Edmonton Animal Rescue Society

We met Freddie (then, Howie) within three days of applying, and we knew we had to adopt him when Bella seemed to liven up and started dragging him around the back yard by his leash. On July 11, 2014, he became ours. We almost returned him the next day when Jon spent 45 minutes chasing him down Victoria Trail in busy traffic after he escaped the yard. Luckily, I convinced Jon the dog just needed time to adjust and learn his name, and Freddie's completed our family unit...so far.

Freddie's first day with us

July 13, 2015

At some point in between adopting Freddie and volunteering for GEARS, I tried a bunch of things to enhance my life. One of them was my own faux-business, "The Barking Bakery Canada", which failed miserably and made a whopping $125 over three months of appearances at Farmer's Markets to sell my home made dog cookies ($90 of that was my debut at a Christmas craft show). I tried doing art, and selling my paintings, but that didn't work either. 

I had been a volunteer my whole adult life, travelling across Canada when I turned 18 to volunteer at Cancer institutions, learning disability centers, and even the United Way. I spent a year as a crisis line volunteer at The Sexual Assault Center of Edmonton. I continue to be on the Board of Directors at my community league. So I hung the towel for a little while in the entrepreneur department and went back to my roots: finding something I was passionate enough about to get involved in.

I first applied to volunteer with GEARS as a blogger on July 13, 2015. It combined my favourite things: volunteering, the Internet, and dogs (sorry cats, you're important, too). Blogging turned into helping with social media posts overall, and eventually being a temporary foster somewhere down the line. Basically, I have a multi-personality disorder within GEARS

July 27, 2015

I stopped eating meat kind of on a whim this day. I always hated chicken, and bacon was making me feel gross, especially when I had cut out a major source of my exercise regime a month earlier. I continue to eat eggs and fish, but for somebody with chronically low iron, I surprisingly feel better with the lack of red meat in my life. 

Let's clarify, though: I stopped eating meat for dietary purposes. People expect me to advocate for animal rights and be some version of a hippie because of my meatless ways, but it's not true. I advocate for animal rights, and I avoid red meat and hate chicken. The two are entirely unrelated. However, I coincidentally feel less guilty when I'm not indirectly killing cows, but I won't judge you if that sort of activity thrills you.

Today

Today...I was faced with the possibility of adopting a third dog. Dammit Bella, what did you start?

We'll update that soon...



Sunday, May 1, 2016

The Type-A Bride

It's officially May 1, 2016. This means I have exactly 27 days to finalize my wedding plans. Which really means 20 days, because I refuse to leave anything to the last minute. I am doing my best to not freak out and scare my future husband away.

I've actually done a pretty good job with my wedding plans this far. I'm really organized, despite what my house cleaning says about me. When I get an idea, I run with it, so I think I've been in full wedding mode since I got engaged August 10, 2015. I know I can do this. Hell, I have a girlfriend who planned her wedding in four days and everything was seamless. I've got a lot of things going for me, right now. The main components - family, friends, food, booze, music, and a beautiful wedding dress - are all in place. But there's still that Type-A personality that creeps in going "you need to get this done now!"

There are three problems with being Type-A that can make planning a wedding difficult:

You Want to Do Everything Yourself

It's not that I don't trust others, it's just that I can do it better. 

No, really. I have a terrible time communicating my ideas, or I feel like everything is just easier if I take on the work myself to make sure it gets done the way I want it done. I have accepted this as a life-long trait that I will never avoid, and I'm going to embrace that one day, it will benefit me and I will find a way to reduce my own stress levels.

You Hate Waiting on Others

I know there are some things I really can't do on my own as much as I want to, because I either don't know how, or am not an octopus. 

I'm basically an eighty year old woman when it comes to technology, so that's Jon's job. But Jon doesn't see the urgency in testing out a sound system when I say "hey, we should pull your speakers out", meaning "DO IT NOW OR I WILL CUT YOU!"

I need to calm down and just trust that others will do the job I asked of them within the correct time frame. But Jeeze....20 days, you guys!

*Note: Jon has checked out the speakers before the time of making this post*

Nobody's Suggestions are Good

I hate when somebody has a practical idea, and I didn't think of it first. Maybe that's the competitive nature of a Type-A personality. I don't know. Either way, my dad asked last night if we were hosting a cocktail hour (which I totally was planning on doing - NOT - because I won't be there, and I didn't think of what people will do when I'm not there between the ceremony and reception, which are only an hour apart), and I had a full on internal meltdown. There was NO WAY my dad had a good idea for a wedding when he's had his own before, because this is my event!

I finally agreed that it's probably the best thing to do and made arrangements for cocktails, but God, that one really hurt.

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So I'm finally trying to learn how to ask for help, but I'm doing it with gritted teeth and piles of anxiety. I'm also learning to be patient, and instead of becoming this raging bitch when things aren't done at the time my super meet-the-deadlines brain is wired to believe something is supposed to be done, I just choose to blog about it. Lastly, I really appreciate other people's ideas and advice, whether I look like it or not. This is my first rodeo and hopefully my last, so obviously, I have no idea what I'm doing. Thank you for putting up with my stubbornness and inability to delegate until crisis mode kicks in.

Soon, a new band will be added to this :)